THE PURPLE CIRCLE
Men and Women talk about Sex
It's time for men and women to come together and heal.
Let's be open, honest and authentic with each other- so we can understand our similarities and honor our differences, express our truths, ask the hard questions of one another and get real answers.
The Purple Circle is a Safe and Sacred Space where we will meet in ritual, practice authentic sharing, use expressive art, movement, and play therapy tools to enhance our understanding and hold deep and powerful conversations about sex, relationships, gender, love, dating and more.
You are invited, by Sexual Empowerment Coach, Sasha Zeilig, to let your guard down, share your truth, open your heart, and expand your capacity for connection, compassion and expression with all genders.
Women have been gathering in Red Tents all over the world to talk about what it means to be a woman, how we can heal ourselves and the masculine and feminine dynamic. It is time to bring the men into the conversation and have the discussion together.
Blue (for “Boys”) + Pink (for “Girls)
[represents programmed cultural gender biases and creates categorization, separation, and dis-empowerment]
= The Purple Circle
[represents reclaiming our power, reintegrating the qualities of divine masculine and feminine individually and collectively, sharing knowledge, and becoming one]
Open to EVERYONE (18+)
The Safest Sex is Sacred Sex.
BENEFITS:
The Purple Circle is a Sacred Circle, a place to connect through ritual, share our truths, learn from each other and grow together as Men and Women.
This is a Clean Slate, a fresh start, to be the kind of person you want to be!
Let’s start talking together about what it means to be men and women living in their complete Divine Masculine and Feminine essences individually, communally, and in relationship with each other.
WE WILL ALSO INCLUDE EXPRESSIVE ART, CEREMONY, AND MANY COME PLAY™ ACTIVITIES:
WHY THIS WORK IS IMPORTANT NOW:
Whether or not we have been victims of direct sexual violence ourselves, our society is so saturated with messages of sexual objectification and past beliefs around what each respective gender is supposed to be that we have all undoubtedly been affected by “rape-culture.” We are all victims of it. Yet we are all participants in it. It’s impossible to get away from. The only choice we have is to change the dynamic within ourselves… up-level our own consciousness, and wake ourselves up.
By accepting responsibility for our part, and living in alignment with our own personal truth about love, we free ourselves.
When we witness each other's pain, we feel compassion and empathy. We understand each other more deeply. We see that we are not alone. We are the same. We are one.
We come to value the innate balance we bring to each other. And we create a new path collectively.
POTENTIAL TOPICS TO BE COVERED: (Please vote in the Survey below)
WHERE:
Panels Coffee and Comics
713 Mission Ave suite a, Oceanside, CA 92054
WHEN:
Traditionally, the Full Moon is a time of wholeness and closure. It seemed like perfectly divine timing for us to gather and heal together… closing one chapter in our history and starting a new chapter in herstory. So please join me and the Purple Circle:
Every 4th WEDNESDAY of the month nearest the 12 Full Moons of 2018
7:00 pm - 9:00 pm
1/31
2/28
3/28
4/25
5/30
6/27
7/25
8/29
9/29
10/24
11/21 (3rd Wednesday)
12/19 (3rd Wednesday)
HOW MUCH:
$144 for the whole year (12 Full Moon Purple Circles for only $12 each)
$99 for 6 ($16.50 each)
$20 for 1 (online only)
CODE OF CONDUCT:
All participants will agree and be expected to conduct themselves in the following ways during each Purple Circle.
We agree to keep all information revealed during the Purple Circle 100% confidential. We understand that we may discuss our own personal experience, but we may not reveal names, information, experiences, or stories shared by other Purple Circle participants.
We will practice the 4 Agreements (by: Don Miguel Ruiz)
We will also Hold Space for each other by agreeing to:
If we get Triggered, we will continue to hold Safe Space for ourselves and our coHearts by agreeing not to:
Furthermore, we agree to never “Gaslight” each other. (Gaslighting means: to manipulate someone by psychological means into questioning their own feelings, beliefs, or sanity.)
We will not discount each others’ feelings (by saying, “No, you don’t actually feel that way, you feel ___________ instead”).
We will offer each other a clean slate/fresh start at each and every Purple Circle.
We will do our best to resolve any negative feelings between participants during the present moment or as soon as possible. We will do our best to resolve all issues before the close of that Purple Circle. If we cannot, we will create a plan of action to resolve the conflict.
Finally, we agree that though love can happen any time anywhere, the Purple Circle is not intended to be a dating or hookup opportunity. Though sexual chemistry happens often, we agree to keep our energetic tentacles to ourselves (even if we find them wanting to hook into other participants).
We agree to take care of ourselves and maintain clear boundaries during all conversations.
We give ourselves permission to say “No” at anytime. (If we receive a “No,” we can respond by saying, “Thank you for taking care of yourself.”)
We agree to not Friend Request anyone in the private Facebook group whom we have not met in person and asked, face to face, for consent to connect on social media.
If we find ourselves having an issue with one specific participant and we are unable to resolve the situation on our own in the moment, Sasha Zeilig must be notified.
If we do not feel safe because of another participant, Sasha Zeilig must be notified.
With the first complaint, Sasha will address the participant herself for resolution. If Sasha receives 2 complaints about a specific participant, that person will be asked to leave the Purple Circle for the rest of the year.
We will use the Peace Rose System of conflict resolution:
Person A: When you did __________________, I felt __________________.
Or
I didn’t like it when you ___________________________.
Person B: I hear that when I did ____________________, you felt ________________.
Or
I hear that you didn’t like it when I __________________________.
When you did __________________, I felt __________________.
Or
I didn’t like it when you ___________________________.
Person A: I hear that when I did ____________________, you felt ________________.
Or
I hear that you didn’t like it when I __________________________.
Person A: How can I make it right?
Person B: You can make it right by ____________________________. How can I make it right?
Person B: You can make it right by ____________________________.
Let's be open, honest and authentic with each other- so we can understand our similarities and honor our differences, express our truths, ask the hard questions of one another and get real answers.
The Purple Circle is a Safe and Sacred Space where we will meet in ritual, practice authentic sharing, use expressive art, movement, and play therapy tools to enhance our understanding and hold deep and powerful conversations about sex, relationships, gender, love, dating and more.
You are invited, by Sexual Empowerment Coach, Sasha Zeilig, to let your guard down, share your truth, open your heart, and expand your capacity for connection, compassion and expression with all genders.
Women have been gathering in Red Tents all over the world to talk about what it means to be a woman, how we can heal ourselves and the masculine and feminine dynamic. It is time to bring the men into the conversation and have the discussion together.
Blue (for “Boys”) + Pink (for “Girls)
[represents programmed cultural gender biases and creates categorization, separation, and dis-empowerment]
= The Purple Circle
[represents reclaiming our power, reintegrating the qualities of divine masculine and feminine individually and collectively, sharing knowledge, and becoming one]
Open to EVERYONE (18+)
- This is a Safe Space for men and women to ask questions of each other
- This is a Safe Space to heal past wounds
- This is a Safe Space to create a new active dynamic of masculine and feminine balance within ourselves and others
The Safest Sex is Sacred Sex.
BENEFITS:
- Balance the Divine Feminine and Masculine within yourself
- Have your truth heard by the opposite gender
- Learn what women and men really want directly from the source
- Discuss Sex openly and acquire tools and wisdom for future sexual conversations
- Learn to communicate consciously and authentically
- Practice holding space for big emotions without trying to fix anything
- Honor our similarities and understand our differences
- Meet new people and build new relationships
- Define your boundaries
- Be honest, bold, and brave
- Have it be okay to feel vulnerable
- Be heard, be seen, be witnessed
The Purple Circle is a Sacred Circle, a place to connect through ritual, share our truths, learn from each other and grow together as Men and Women.
This is a Clean Slate, a fresh start, to be the kind of person you want to be!
Let’s start talking together about what it means to be men and women living in their complete Divine Masculine and Feminine essences individually, communally, and in relationship with each other.
WE WILL ALSO INCLUDE EXPRESSIVE ART, CEREMONY, AND MANY COME PLAY™ ACTIVITIES:
- Group Art
- Honesty or Bravery (a Truth or Dare Game)
- You Are Not Alone
- Journeydance
- AcroYoga
- Partner balances and stretching
- Free Writing
- Mirror Me
- Show Me for Myself
- Redo
- In My Shoes
- Sculptures
WHY THIS WORK IS IMPORTANT NOW:
Whether or not we have been victims of direct sexual violence ourselves, our society is so saturated with messages of sexual objectification and past beliefs around what each respective gender is supposed to be that we have all undoubtedly been affected by “rape-culture.” We are all victims of it. Yet we are all participants in it. It’s impossible to get away from. The only choice we have is to change the dynamic within ourselves… up-level our own consciousness, and wake ourselves up.
By accepting responsibility for our part, and living in alignment with our own personal truth about love, we free ourselves.
When we witness each other's pain, we feel compassion and empathy. We understand each other more deeply. We see that we are not alone. We are the same. We are one.
We come to value the innate balance we bring to each other. And we create a new path collectively.
POTENTIAL TOPICS TO BE COVERED: (Please vote in the Survey below)
- Anal Sex
- CoDependent Relationships
- Consent (Chaste/Chased)
- Dating
- Female Moon Cycles (possible corresponding Male Cycles)
- First Sex (Virginhood and with each new partner)
- Gender vs. Sexual Orientation
- Healthy Boundaries
- Intimacy (Friendship)
- Kinks
- Loyalty
- Masturbation
- Oral Sex
- Penises and Male Anatomy (circumcision)
- Puberty
- Rape Culture (and our contributions to the cycle)
- Sharing of experiences
- Talking about Preferences, Fantasies, and Desires
- Types of Relationships (Monogamous, Open, Poly, etc…)
- Vulvas and Female Anatomy (lubrication)
WHERE:
Panels Coffee and Comics
713 Mission Ave suite a, Oceanside, CA 92054
WHEN:
Traditionally, the Full Moon is a time of wholeness and closure. It seemed like perfectly divine timing for us to gather and heal together… closing one chapter in our history and starting a new chapter in herstory. So please join me and the Purple Circle:
Every 4th WEDNESDAY of the month nearest the 12 Full Moons of 2018
7:00 pm - 9:00 pm
1/31
2/28
3/28
4/25
5/30
6/27
7/25
8/29
9/29
10/24
11/21 (3rd Wednesday)
12/19 (3rd Wednesday)
HOW MUCH:
$144 for the whole year (12 Full Moon Purple Circles for only $12 each)
$99 for 6 ($16.50 each)
$20 for 1 (online only)
CODE OF CONDUCT:
All participants will agree and be expected to conduct themselves in the following ways during each Purple Circle.
We agree to keep all information revealed during the Purple Circle 100% confidential. We understand that we may discuss our own personal experience, but we may not reveal names, information, experiences, or stories shared by other Purple Circle participants.
We will practice the 4 Agreements (by: Don Miguel Ruiz)
- Be impeccable with your word
- Don’t take anything personally
- Don’t make assumptions
- Always do your best
We will also Hold Space for each other by agreeing to:
- Listen without interruption
- Be a continuous participant
- Stay open
- Learn from one another
- Listen to each other
- Respect one another
- Enjoy and be curious about our differences
- Be brave and stand strong in the eye of an emotional storm
- Share about ourselves when relevant
If we get Triggered, we will continue to hold Safe Space for ourselves and our coHearts by agreeing not to:
- Direct our anger directly at another person
- Leave the circle
- Attempt to “Fix” someone else’s emotions
- Judge one another
- Judge ourselves
- Attempt to stop, squelch, or hide our own emotions
Furthermore, we agree to never “Gaslight” each other. (Gaslighting means: to manipulate someone by psychological means into questioning their own feelings, beliefs, or sanity.)
We will not discount each others’ feelings (by saying, “No, you don’t actually feel that way, you feel ___________ instead”).
We will offer each other a clean slate/fresh start at each and every Purple Circle.
We will do our best to resolve any negative feelings between participants during the present moment or as soon as possible. We will do our best to resolve all issues before the close of that Purple Circle. If we cannot, we will create a plan of action to resolve the conflict.
Finally, we agree that though love can happen any time anywhere, the Purple Circle is not intended to be a dating or hookup opportunity. Though sexual chemistry happens often, we agree to keep our energetic tentacles to ourselves (even if we find them wanting to hook into other participants).
We agree to take care of ourselves and maintain clear boundaries during all conversations.
We give ourselves permission to say “No” at anytime. (If we receive a “No,” we can respond by saying, “Thank you for taking care of yourself.”)
We agree to not Friend Request anyone in the private Facebook group whom we have not met in person and asked, face to face, for consent to connect on social media.
If we find ourselves having an issue with one specific participant and we are unable to resolve the situation on our own in the moment, Sasha Zeilig must be notified.
If we do not feel safe because of another participant, Sasha Zeilig must be notified.
With the first complaint, Sasha will address the participant herself for resolution. If Sasha receives 2 complaints about a specific participant, that person will be asked to leave the Purple Circle for the rest of the year.
We will use the Peace Rose System of conflict resolution:
Person A: When you did __________________, I felt __________________.
Or
I didn’t like it when you ___________________________.
Person B: I hear that when I did ____________________, you felt ________________.
Or
I hear that you didn’t like it when I __________________________.
When you did __________________, I felt __________________.
Or
I didn’t like it when you ___________________________.
Person A: I hear that when I did ____________________, you felt ________________.
Or
I hear that you didn’t like it when I __________________________.
Person A: How can I make it right?
Person B: You can make it right by ____________________________. How can I make it right?
Person B: You can make it right by ____________________________.
Learn more about your host & facilitator
You will only be allowed in with a completed SURVEY & PRE-PAYMENT!
Please do this BEFORE 6:30 pm - the day of event.
You will only be allowed in with a completed SURVEY & PRE-PAYMENT!
Please do this BEFORE 6:30 pm - the day of event.
All Twelve Moons of the Purple Circle - $144 ($12 each)
Six Moons of the Purple Circle- $99 ($16.50 each)
One Moons of the Purple Circle - $20
Six Moons of the Purple Circle- $99 ($16.50 each)
One Moons of the Purple Circle - $20
Thank you!
Thank you so much for considering joining the Purple Circle (IN PERSON)!
If you are not in the San Diego area, but would like to join our Purple Circle,
you can join our ONLINE version in the Spring of 2018!
Please sign up below.
If you are not in the San Diego area, but would like to join our Purple Circle,
you can join our ONLINE version in the Spring of 2018!
Please sign up below.
